The stages of grief: the importance of psychological support

Mourning, what a complex word, makes almost afraid to pronounce it. And yet we all know its meaning, all of us We know the pain and suffering that these seemingly Harmless five letters.

But why do we talk about stages of mourning? Let's take it one step at a time, starting at the beginning.

The sense of discouragement during the phases of mourning

Everyone, one or more times in their life, We've been through this pain. And we have often asked ourselves: "How do you do it? to go through the normal stages of grief and begin to live the life of the own life?" It's not easy, in fact at first it will seem like an insurmountable mountain, But it's by no means impossible.

When we are faced with a moment In such a difficult life, the first impulse is to close in on oneself to give up the world around us because everything seems to have a clear impact on them. suddenly lost sense.

Also carry out the normal actions of the Everyday life begins to require a huge effort. Don't get discouraged, it does everything part of the so-called stages of mourning.

Let's see what it's all about.

The stages of grief

Even if the grieving process is Different from person to person, there are stages that we all go through sooner or later, and they have names and explanations that will help you Identify them and deal with them in the way that works best for you.

Phase 1-Shock

Losing someone we love is a blow that no one is ever really ready for. That is why unbelief, confusion, are the first possible reaction. In many cases, detachment occurs from reality, as if we were spectators of our own lives and did not take you actually part. This is the shock phase.

Phase 2-Denial

"Is it all true? Or is it happening in the my head?" If you've thought about it at least once, then you're in the second phase, negation. The loss of the person home looks like a bad one dream, from which one hopes to wake up as soon as possible. Sometimes it happens that continue to look for the person who is no longer with us, and to react with detachment and indifference if someone tells us about her. Always remember that this is not proof of weakness, but of humanity.

Stage 3-Anger

When the moment of disbelief is In the past, here comes the anger. An anger that comes from within and that It seems to devour you, but over time you can learn to transform it into energy and force. The strength to get up and find new stimuli to react, also thanks to to a fundamental companion: empathy.  

Step 4 - Negotiation

When we realize that nothing can To bring back the person we have lost, the desire to To start living again, but without forgetting what has happened to us. This is where it starts negotiation. This phase can be characterized by moments of discouragement and guilt, but with patience and willpower you can get there to overcome it, leaving room for hope.

Stage 5-Depression

This is the time to let go and to make room for sadness. It is not strange that during this phase Everything loses its meaning and you no longer feel interest even in the things you used to passionate. But there's one thing you can do: find a professional that helps you talk about it and explore your emotions to the fullest.

Step 6-Acceptance

This is really the time when We look at our reflection in the mirror and, after everything we've been through, Let's assume that your loved one will never come back. The sadness doesn't go away, the Pain neither, but we learn to manage them and this gives a sense of deep peace that will allow us to really heal. This is acceptance.

Phase 7-Hope

The last stage of grief is hope. You get there after a lot of effort and a lot of pain, but that shouldn't scare you. By the time we get here, we will have learned to look at our suffering with understanding. The pain will come back at times, even the sadness, but they will have become part of the of our lives and therefore they will no longer scare us. It's all about balance, And even if it seems so far away now, it will come and it will be a sensation indescribable.

Reaching the last stage of grief does not It means forgetting those who have left us. It means understanding that that person It has a place in our hearts and will have it forever, but that it is right to leave it to be able to embark on a new chapter in our lives.

To learn more about the stages of grief and understand how a friendly and prepared voice such as that of a psychologist can To help out, listen to our podcast episodes Live and let die.