How to support a bereavement person?
Each of us has found himself, at least one once in a lifetime, wondering what was the best way to support A person, friend or relative, who is bereaved. Often the fear The main problem is to be intrusive, indelicate, to say things that they could be misunderstood, to get the wrong ways and times.
If you've been there at least once or You're passing right now, here are some tips that might help you.
Supporting a person who is suffering: Stages of grief
One of the reasons why it is so difficult Being around someone at a time like this, it's about the fact that we're All different and therefore there is no one way that works for everyone.
Despite this, as much as living a grief is both personal and subjective, there are stages through which everyone we move on sooner or later; Understanding it, can make us understand how to help people who find themselves in this situation.
The phases of the mourning There are 7 of them: shock, denial, anger, negotiation, depression, Acceptance and hope. It is only natural that we will not behave at the same time. In the same way, with a person who is in the first phase and with a person who is in the first phase, He is slowly trying to start living again.
Tips for staying close to those who have Suffered a bereavement
As we have anticipated, in front of a In such a complex moment, there are no rules that are valid for everyone. However, there are some precautions that can be taken into account in order to act in the as gently as possible.
Make contact
First of all, don't put off the moment of contact. We know it's hard to find the right words, but more You will wait the more complicated it becomes. Then, make this contact last over time: don't just limit yourself to condolences, but make yourself heard every just to ask for news and tell the person that they are not alone.
Show yourself willing to listen
The person who has suffered the bereavement does not He always wants to talk. If not, though, let them feel that you're available listening, without rushing them and without making judgments about what they are trying to do. He will confess to rehearsing at that moment.
Look for distractions
Trying to distract the person who has Loss now doesn't mean trying to make her forget what happened. It simply means giving her a few hours of company by talking about or engaging in activities that may allow you to "pause thoughts" for a while.
Offer hands-on support
Bureaucracy, paperwork, The chores that fall on the family after a bereavement are endless. Offer your practical help, ask to be able to be helpful: for example accompany the person to an appointment, offer to go shopping, take children at school and things like that.
Hopefully these tips will To help you support a loved one who has suffered a loss. To learn more about the topic, listen to the podcast Live and Let Die, created by by LovinMemory and curated by psychologist Assunta Corace.